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Stop Overcorrecting Your Life

By Staff | May 13, 2020

Self-improvement has a dark side, and you’ve probably already fallen for it. Do you often second guess yourself? I do it all the time, especially when I’ve made up my mind and then you see someone has a different view.

I was taught at at early age to not let someone else make up my mind for me. I was born thinking I was okay, and then it happened, people started telling me the opposite.

I found out early that I was not always right, nor was I always wrong. When I made a bad decision there was normally hell to pay. It’s been that way most of my life. As a result, I think things through before ever coming to a conclusion.

Of course, this didn’t happen consciously. Over time, I picked up on the rules and expectations around me. I saw what people liked and didn’t, I’ve been mocked and accepted, but through it all I am satisfied with the outcome.

As a youngster if I had an idea I acted on it. It was called trial by error, and it usually worked. Finding out what you want out of life is a full time job in itself, sometimes it never happens. All the education in the world is useless if you can’t apply it to your life.

Growing up, other people start correcting you, telling you how to dress and act and who to be. Don’t let that happen; be the person you want to be. Only you can be trusted when it comes to evaluating the quality of your own life. Your never going to please everyone, so don’t even try. That’s not to say, don’t take good advice, just be careful who you listen to.

Never let anyone tell you, you can’t! People will make you think you’re not good enough. I’ve come to believe that all of us contain many selves, but only one matters. Inner peace is what makes life worthwhile. Knowing you have done the best you can do. You can’t have that by trying to live up to others standards. I believe that the happiest version of yourself is innate.

I don’t think that you have to learn how to be happy; Happiness is a highness, a peacefulness, a settledness, an ability to take things as they come, and to remain steady throughout.

The way of life right now is out of the norm. We are not use to being confined to our homes, away from friends, and relatives. We have been forced to make adjustments in our everyday lives, and the outcome of the pandemic is still very much uncertain. Many people are not happy, they are anxious to go back to the way things were prior to the coronavirus.

For the past eight weeks I have come to realize that the only way to overcome, is through happiness and peace. We may find it hard to adjust to change, but change has saved the world multiple times through the course of history.

For most of us, the pandemic has upended our entire lives. Important projects have halted, we’ve lost jobs, canceled momentous trips, gone weeks without hugging our family and friends. Nothing seems “normal.”

If you’ve lost track of what day of the week it is or can’t remember the last time you changed out of your sweats, fret not. There are things you can do to help you feel like you have some kind of control over your life.

As the weather allows, go outside, take a walk, and by all means mow and trim your yard. For those who don’t know the fine for having grass over 12 inches high is $110 plus the cost of having the property mowed. I made my rounds through town the other day and counted the most unkept grounds, not including those juncked up with trash, garbage, cars and trucks and such. There are many, and some include city property.

I was not trying to expose anyone or tell anyone how to live, but just to prove a point. I have lived in Paden City for over 60 years and I’ve always done my best to keep my properties in good shape. I was at a loss for words when I was sent a picture from a close friend who lives in Florida in the winter. He had received a treatening letter from the city, warning him to mow his yard within five days or face the consequences.

I take care of the property for the man and had just mowed it for the third time this season. It was a little high due to so much rain, and needed mowed, but not to the extented to warrant a letter being sent to Florida. After driving through town and viewing other properties, some right on the main highway and some on mainstreet leading to the park, I have come to the conclusion, my friend has been tarketed as easy prey just for the money. However, I mowed and trimmed again and took pictures. I also took some pictures of some of the ones that really need attention.

I agree with having an ordinance for regular violators. However after making several trips to the city building about a water leak next door to the house which was flooding the yard and causing damage, without any results, until one councilman took action, there is no doubt this was an intentional act of revenge from the city.

So, there you have it. To give you something to do, get in your car, or take a walk and look at some of the eyesores around town. Don’t forget to check out the city building and some of their own properties. It would be nice to see them set an example for others to follow.

In the mist of a pandemic when people are struggling to make ends meet, it’s a great time to help people out. Is that the best we can do as a city, tarket certain individuals and the most vulnerable people. Shameful!