Fairy Tales Don’t Come Easily
In the words of Ronald Regan, “There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.”
To many young people growing up in this generation, marriage is thought of as outdated. There are others who think of it as a fairytale, with a beautiful wedding dress, perfect house, children, and of course, Prince Charming.
Although those things are nice to dream about, people who have experienced marriage know it is not always the case. In fact, marriage can be messy and difficult. It often takes patience, compromise, and compassion.
Randy and Mary Ann Rutherford have been married for 44 years, and are still going strong.
“Randy and I both grew up in Sistersville. Because Randy is a few years older than I am, we were never in high school together. I knew who he was as the handsome football star, but he had no idea who I was still in junior high,” said Mary Ann, recalling how the events unfolded. “We met over a Christmas break home from college. I attended West Liberty and Randy had just graduated from Fairmont State. He called my parents home to ask me out. We went to a movie in Parkersburg and then to the Elks Club. This was the first of many dates. We were married in 1976,” she reports.
“Over our 44 year marriage, we have lived in New Martinsville, Summerville, Scott Depot, Pittsburgh, PA, Raleigh, NC, and our last stop, Grand Haven, MI where our two children grew up and attended school.”
Before long, they realized it was time to return to their roots and where it all began. “Because we have always been true fans of West Virginia and our children both married people from West Virginia, when we retired there was no question. We were coming home!”
When asked about the secret to a long marriage, Mary Ann had this to say: “First, a strong faith. Second, always putting your spouse’s needs ahead of yours, but this one is reciprocal. And when there is conflict, and there always will be, face it together as a couple in a partnership. Follow this advice and hopefully you, too, will enjoy the love of a strong family for many wonderful years.”